me: when am i going to meet her? when are you going to introduce your girlfriend to your boyfriend
mango: … for a second i got confused. i was like, “you’re not a girl, and i’m pretty sure she’s not a boy…”
me: how dare you say i’m not a girl
mango: don’t be such a girl about it
in the best possible way, it’s “fuck your comfort, this is the internet”. in the worst, it’s “i don’t believe that anyone could possibly have a traumatic experience with regards to <thing>, therefore you haven’t, so i won’t tag <thing>”. and posts like these give people the words they need to say that
it serves ONLY to unstitch a good thing because they don’t like how nice it is
anti-sjw people make me so fucking mad tbh. they act like they know things but they literally don’t, but then you’d never get one to say “actually you’re right, i DON’T know what i’m talking about, i can’t believe i thought that deliberately not doing something when asked to is actually as bad an idea as it blatantly is by the act of having someone literally right in front of me telling me how bad it is in the form of asking me to do it”
i always get shit when i talk about this but the reason i dont tag tw is bc
a) the term ‘trigger’ is meant to refer 2 those with PTSD those w severe anxiety and/or survivors of various forms of abuse it indicates an extreme reaction 2 certain stimulus like a panic attack/flashback/blackout caused by ur brain being unable to handle the resurgence of something horrific that happened to u
b) with that being said, i dont post triggering content. i havent talked about serious triggering shit on this blog for a long time in fact i think the last time i tagged smth was when i reblogged this youtube video about domestic abuse probs like 6 months ago nowadays i just reblog pretty pictures and make fun of anons
c) i get a thousand messages everyday from ppl suggesting i should tag shit like ‘spiders, ‘blood’, ‘feet’, ‘ghosts’, etc and it seriously pisses me off that u guys really believe ‘triggering’ equals ‘it makes me uncomfortable’ im not here to make tumblr a better place for u im not even getting paid man it’s ur responsibility to take care of yourself when it comes to these random ass ‘triggers’ if u cant see a gif of a ghost on ur dash you shouldn’t be online at all
d) in fact, ive come to the conclusion that demanding one of these lame ass trigger warnings it’s just a way 2 identify yourself as even more aware even more solicitous than the person who failed to ~adequately~ provide such a ridiculous warning. when i see ppl tagging ‘tw: spiders’ i cant help but think they are not demonstrating a sensitivity towards a topic but rather they just wanna be ‘seen’ doing so 2 demand that others ‘ought’ to do the same to validate one’s politics. this whole ’trigger’ business is less about protecting ppl from potentially re-traumatizing events and more 2 do with flagging up your right-on credentials even if it means silencing those who have actually gone through actual traumatizing events.
you weren’t asked to tag something as tw: anything. people are so aware of what triggers are and don’t appropriate that but they’re still made uncomfortable by some content and want a way to blacklist it anyway, because it’s their dashboard. if you don’t solicit peoples’ rights to filter content based on what makes them uncomfortable you honestly don’t deserve to have people following you at all.
this kind of post is going to do nothing but give people an excuse NOT to tag spiders and blood because it’s “not a trigger”. we fucking realise that it’s not, in the majority of cases, a trigger, that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be tagged regardless. it doesn’t need to be TW: anything, just the word is literally all you’ve been asked to tag it as because the word is all they have blacklisted it as because, shock, it’s NOT A POPULAR TRIGGER AND WE KNOW THAT.
if not that, then it’s going to make people who currently tag actually triggering content stop tagging it. because you just gave them the words with which to qualify what is and what isn’t triggering content in THEIR point of view, and not the POV of the person who’s asked for content to be tagged in the first place. how the fuck is that anything other than “silencing those who have actually gone through actual traumatising events” b/c you’re sitting here like “well, THAT doesn’t sound reasonable, therefore you DON’T have that lived experience”. ???
just tag content you big babies